The Hardest Thing to Accept in the World is…
that happiness is within us.
That it’s an internal thing.
That it’s a decision.
We’ve programmed by society and consumerism.
Happiness is a feeling that is out there. We have to buy their product to make us happy.
We look for false highs.
We seek the next thing that will make us happy.
We’re constantly looking for something or someone to make us happy.
And we live our life looking for happiness, which inevitably makes us miserable. Why are so many people in our society struggling with depression and anxiety?
I’ve been very open about my struggles with mental health and my alcohol abuse.
What’s the Alternative?
Stop playing their fuckin’ game.
Fuck their idea of happiness.
Happiness is inside us when we stop with their bullshit.
Telling us that we’re not enough.
That we’re not sexy enough or successful enough or clever enough.
Need. Need. Need.
Happiness isn’t what they say it.
It’s a deep feeling of okayness (that you’re enough). It’s being in the present moment. It’s that feeling of peace. It’s the feeling that all is good right now.
I’m not gonna lie, it’s something that I’m working through and practicing. I’m not walking around 24/7 100% happy. I’m learning.
What I’ve shared right here, it’s what on my heart. It’s the message from my soul to both me and to the world.
Time to stand up and say “NO MORE!”
and take authority over our happiness.
Here’s 6 Strategies You can Use
Instead of focusing on what is lacking and what you think you need, appreciate what you have. You can write a list or do it mentally.
What are five things that you appreciate?
2) What have you enjoyed today? (or yesterday if you’re reading it in the morning)
A great exercise to do is to list the things you’ve enjoyed from the day. It’s a powerful exercise that gets you focused on the good in your life. It’s great to do when you’re in bed before you go to sleep.
Meditation can be amazing for just putting you into a chilled place.
This afternoon, I was feeling a little “blah” and I just sat and did a short meditation, not even ten minutes, at the end, I had a wonderful sense of peace and “okayness”.
And meditation doesn’t have to be over complicated or super intense.
4) Tune out the noise
Social media, the television, the news.
If you’re always connected you’re gonna feel anxious, fearful, not good enough, etc.
It’s the recipe for unhappiness.
5) Practice living in the present
This was a game-changer for me. Taking my focus off the past and the future. Even if that meant choosing not to worry about later in the day or even an hour later. Gave me a sense of calm and okayness.
6) Create over consuming.
Constantly consuming is mind-numbing. Creating brings us fulfilment, which leads to a feeling of happiness. Creation helps us feel good about ourself.
It could be a job or business, it could be a hobby, it could be raising a child or children.
For me, it’s cooking, writing, recording videos and playing my guitar.
When I’ve created I feel good. When I feel good, I feel happy.
Happiness is inside of us. It’s up to us to find it and nurture it.
I hope this has been helpful.