Lessons From My Recent Dip Into Depression
Two Sundays ago, I suddenly dipped into depression. I’m not 100% what caused it. I’d had a good weekend. My life situation hadn’t changed. I just plummeted.
Maybe I’m slightly glossing over the truth (as I think about it).
I’ve been out of work for a few weeks as my previous job offer fell through and I had couple of interviews on the Monday. Neither of them where ideally what I wanted to do, but like us all, I need money coming in so I can pay bills and enjoy life, right?
So, I think the trigger was knowing that I was going for job interviews that I wasn’t excited about it. I also think that I was a bit down on myself. You see, I’ve done lots of different things in my life and I’ve never really doubled down on one particular skill. It’s left my a kind of Jack of many trades and master of none.
I think all of this was going on in my head and I let the conversation bring me right down.
How Did I Get Through My Mini Depression?
I manged to lift myself out of my depressive funk within three and a half days, instead of letting it continue and get worse.
This is how…
Acceptance. I accepted how I felt instead of fighting and struggling. This is a subtle art, because there is a danger of completely entering into your depression. The trick here is to be an observer of the depression rather than identifying with it. The difference between, “I feel depressed” and “I am depressed”. There is a subtle but definite difference between both phases.
Allow yourself to do what you need to do. For me, it was pizza and beer. Again we often fight things that we label as bad. We create an internal struggle that consumes our energy and keeps us stuck. Being stuck is what we want to avoid, we want to move through this feeling.
Set a time limit. Allow yourself a period of time to feel how you feel and give yourself a cut off point. Say to yourself, “On *day* I’m gonna move on.”
For me, I allowed myself until Thursday, then I started my Daily Do’s again. Eating nutritiously, drinking water, cooking and exercising. I stopped with the pizza and the beer.
Depression And Intentional Living
The underlying principle in what I’ve shared here is intentional living; us shaping our life, rather than life shaping us. Most people practise passive living, they allow life to happen to them and react to it.
Intentional living is about creating our life experience. We can do this with the (so-called) good and (so-called) bad, by us taking ownership and responsibility for our situation and how we handle it.
Your Best Days Are in Front of You,