From Fatass To Badass

As men we want to feel like a badass. We watch movies and wish we were more like the heroes we see on the screen.

They look good, they say the right thing, the move in the right way and they don’t get flustered. The great ones have that air of calmness…

then we remember how we act

and it’s nothing like that.

And we feel like failures as men.

And not young men at that.

If you’re like me, you’ve looked back at your life and your like, “What have I done with my life?” “Why haven’t I got my life together yet?” “It’s too late now.” “If I only knew then what I know now!”

Is It All Downhill From Here?

Men in their forties struggle with depression and suicidal thoughts. The studies tell us that suicide is the number one killer for men in this age range.

We feel like the best of life is over and now we’re on the downhill slope to death.

Does it have to be?


The Answer I Was Looking For

In July/August of this year, I was open to a something new. The way I’d been living my life wasn’t working for me and I’d had enough. I was over emotional, unhappy and stressed. Having a few glasses of wine was the highlight of my day.

Not sure how, but I stumbled across Stoicism. I’ve had a copy of Meditations by Marcus Aurelius for a few years and had dipped into it, so it wasn’t completely alien. I began reading a little about Stoicism and what I read excited me.

It seemed to be the answer I was looking for.

For this guy who’s life had been an emotional rollercoaster in the last 18-20 months now had a blueprint for living differently. I discovered (or rediscovered) the one thing that we have control over….

Our responses.

Sometimes, the world throws shit at us. We have zero control over it.


The Beginning

Every journey starts with a beginning. Kinda obvious really!

I’ve been on a few inner journeys in the past. But this one started about two months ago.

Honestly, I’ve been unhappy for the best part of two years. I’ve been emotionally a wreck. My physical health has been average. My personal habits have been poor.

This journey began with the decision that I wanted to cut down my drinking and lose a bit of weight before my recent trip to Las Vegas.

I set myself a forty day challenge which I shared on Facebook everyday. I decided to eat more nutritiously (I HATE the term healthily), drink two litres of water every day, eat no sugary food, exercise every day, not to eat past 8pm and drink alcohol once a week.